What you are is just because of you!!!

 

What you are is just because of you!!!

When I was small, in English, we had a story in which a person was standing in between two roads from which he had to choose one road .He didn’t know where the other side ends. It’s totally his decision what comes in his way.

Similarly our lives is like that person, in which we have many roads but we have to choose only one road. We deeply think about it, maybe we discuss with our near and dearer, but the decision is ours. I saw many people who blamed other person for their situation. Yes in some cases things are not in your hand like your promotion. In that case you also have other option like to change the job or wait in that organization. Things totally in your hand.

Sometimes your decision comes in your favor but sometimes not. If it is in your favor, at that time you are happy for your decision but if it goes against you, you blamed others. Why so?

In my life too I took many decisions, yes I discussed with others too because I think maybe I can’t think other perspective of the situation, experienced person help me in this. I also keep in my mind, my priority. What I am doing or whatever my work is, it’s totally upon me either it is household or my work station.

So whatever u are doing or want to do , you are doing it for yourself, so why to make other involve in this or depend upon other, it only makes chaos.

I don’t want to depend upon others even on my spouse. He has his own things to do and interfering in other work makes chaos only. And now where I am standing it’s just because of my decisions only and I am very happy with it.

Just few things you have to keep in mind

Understand what you want

Understand your priority

Your decision will not affect others

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo

 Nam Myoho Renge kyu..Nam Myoho Renge kyu..Nam Myoho Renge kyu.Life is full of hurdles and we get tired or frustated from this hurdles ,so was I.My sister told me about this.So,I tried my hand in this, for me Doing something is better than nothing.I started this when my husband want a particular job eagerly.I started it on a continous basis and guess what he got that job.This may be coincident but it gave me a reason to continue it but like any other person ,my wish completed so my chant also completed.

Then one day I realized I used to scold my small daughter without any reason,everytime used to complain my husband.I know I was wrong but how I get out of this.Again I started it and slowly and slowly ,my problem solved, my life again on track.

Many people heard about it but they don't know what exactly it is.I am writing this to tell you what it is with simple and easy language.

It is about happiness and positivity in life.It not stop problems in your life,(problems are part of life) it only brings less suffering.Like instead of 4 days fever you will get 2 days fever.

It is a practice which teaches you how to behave or react on a particular situation.It tells you a way to overcome that situation.It brings positivity in your attitude .You can bring changes in you but change another person next to impossible but by seeing your positive attitude another person can be change.

It teaches you how to make zig zag way a smooth way.

So I  chant it  for me ,my family , my friends and  now I am chanting for my world from covid.You can also try it, for any query do comment below.I try my best to solve your queries and chant for you also.

Busy Time

It’s been a long time to write something. It’s not because I don’t have any topic to write, infect, I got many topics, the only problem is time. Life is full on busy. Whenever I get the time and want to write something, become lazy and do rest.

But today I switched off my TV, open my lappy and start writing. (Thinking about the topic).Let’s start with a time. In today era, everyone is busy, except kids (nursery kids).So am I. No one wants to sit ideal at home. I know to do home task properly, is one of the toughest job. So for me but I had a dream to have my own business.Yes, this is the only reason I stop writing for a while.

In a mean time I started my business, I don’t know in future where it(business) goes, yet I had started. Atleast in future I will not regret about, not did anything in life. I don’t want to use ‘may be, if ‘words in my future for regretting something from my life.

In an age of 30’s you have full potential, lot of energy and most important many innovative ideas.So, this a time we can start new things. We can do lots of hard work and stand our new business. I know one thing “IF YOU DO HARD WORK TODAY, ONLY THEN, YOU SIT PEACEFULLY IN FUTURE .IF YOU SIT PEACEFULLY TODAY, THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO HARDWORK.”If you deeply think about it, first one is good option.

“I DONT HAVE TIME”, heard from many people, even I am also use to say these words. Because of these words I can’t get time to write blog, that’s why writing this blog in midnight. My sister use to say”time nikalne se nikalta hai”.If you want to do work then by hook or crook you will do that work. If the Sword of Damocles hangs over someone’s head only then, they have time to do work.

I know it’s very difficult but try to do work systematically, so that, you don’t need to say

TIME IS THE ONLY PROBLEM

POTTY TRAINING

I saw many queries related to potty training. Even I want to know it.Yes,my daughter ,3 years old, does not tell me about potty.Still,I am writing this post to tell others about what I did wrong .

The right age to train your baby is 2 years .You must be thinking 2 years? Baby is too small to train. Yes, he is too small but he is not too small to understand it.If this stage pass he become stubborn and don’t want to tell.

I used to tell my daughter with a smile that we do potty in bathroom, I did this for 1 year,  I never scolded her as I was thinking that she was too small. BUT a day came when I realized how important, at least in this stage, for a mother that baby must tell about potty.

I and my husband were in airport and she did potty. I didn’t said any word to her and took her to ladies toilet and where she refused to sit on toilet seat .She literally crying and I shouted her like a mad person but of  no use .I couldn’t call my husband too(ladies toilet).NOW WHAT? Finally, I got my angel, washroom attendant she helped me. At that time I made  promise in her holidays I taught her about potty.Everytime she did potty in panty I scolded her ,she used to scare of me  and said”mumma  aap nahi samjhaoge na”,”nahi,mumma ko nahi batana” etc.In the last I gave up because I don’t want my baby will start scaring of me.

From that day onwards I sometimes scold her,sometimes explain her and sometimes don’t say anything.Waiting for the day when she will tell me” mumma potty ayi hai”.

From my experienced i come to know that yes you have to be strict  about potty. If you think that it not work try after some days. 

YOU HAVE TO BE STRICT AND HAVE TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS.

After scolding him/her, don’t try to console him/her. You hug him/her after 1 hour or when you think its a right time

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT BABY DO LIKE MY PAGE AND FOLLOW MY BLOG.

Speech 3

In a hope all you stammered doing your exercise well .now its time for next chapter.I make it short and simple .if you noticed your speech you stuck on few alphabets like ‘k’,’s’ etc.

Now what you have to do is counting. Speak 4 digits at a time or you can say in one breath like 1,2,3,4 then 2 seconds break then 5,6,7,8 like this, do it till 100.Not to forget to write the time and your own remarks in a therapy note book.

Like this you can also read short stories, first in hindi then after 1 week you can start English stories too. After 4-5 words make a slash, this recall you that you don’t have to read more than this in a breath.

Feel free to ask me anything about it. Next chapter will come soon

Not to forget to practice regularly.

Remember it takes time ,more than 6 months. It’s not easy to change your habits.

SPEECH 2

Declaration:-I AM NOT A DOCTOR

It is just a kind of speech therapy. Before starting anything keep following points in mind

·         Make a notebook to note your exercise time

·         Note your week points

·         Do exercise daily (at least for an hour)

Breathing affects your speech a lot. So first of all prepare a bed and lie on it. Slowly inhale and exhale. When you exhale start saying ‘aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa’like this, say all vowels sound. Don’t give any pressure while saying vowels sound. When you are exhaling only then you say vowel sound.

This is the first exercise, start doing it .Soon you get next exercise.

Remember slow and steady win the race

Don’t give up

Exercises are easy but effective, so do it in a proper way.

For further guidance do write to me.

ALL THE BEST!!!!!!

Speech 1

People judge you, first by your looks and then by your speech. Looks you can change easily but changing the way you talk needs so much practice. I am not talking about language. I am talking about the way you speak your language.

Speaking confidently is the only key by which a salesman, sale his product.

Some people speak too fast or too slow. Too fast people hardly understandable and too slow, people don’t want to listen them. And some people stammer. People also don’t want to listen them, if they listen, they stop stammerer in between the line or just start laughing, which decrease their moral to speak.

These are actually habits, which are going to increase as time passes because:-

·         Person is too small to know the outcomes of these problems

·         No one is there to guide them

·         People laugh which decrease their confidence

I AM NOT A DOCTOR. Here I want to tell my experience, yes my, I was the sufferer from one of these problem but with proper guidance I overcome from it.

So I want to share my experience and exercises through which I overcome it but in my next blog. May be at least one person get overcome from it.

Stay tune for next blog and do share your nearer and dearer experiences.

KIDDLE

KIDS, so much advance, they know everything which we didn’t know ,when we were in their age. If we see one side, this is good but if we see other side of it, not so good. As a mother I want my child is of good behavior, doesn’t harm herself or others. I know in child’s behavior environment is one of the factors but there are another factors also and from them one is internet.

Computer is a demand of today’s era. Even in school, teachers are giving that kind of homework or projects for which students have to use internet. There are many search engines but everyone thinks,what we want, we only get it from google. So according to me only one search engine is there for students as well i.e. ‘GOOGLE’ but did you notice one thing same engine is for adults as well as for students. Students can see whatever they like unless and until someone supervise them. Practically, this is not possible. A child wants to see and eager to know everything.

 KIDDLE(google's baby) I don’t know how much of you are aware about the word “KIDDLE”. Few days back even I also didn’t aware about KIDDLE and frankly speaking I didn’t show any interest in this word until and unless my dd has grown up and started to going to use internet. In few years she will start using internet on her own and in her search some subjects will be there which are not good for her at least at her age. I hope you can understand what I am talking about.

You can say by luck I had seen one of my post on my facebook page”https://www.facebook.com/pg/garyreviews/posts/”  The post is only a pic of KIDDLE and then I started searching about it. Here my search says :-

Ø  It’s of GOOGLE
Ø only you get kid related subjects,if you want to search anything another than that ,you get "no result". 

The only drawback is that after using Google, it’s so difficult and confusing to use KIDDLE but as children get use to it,I am damn sure this drawback will no more become a drawback.

So parents instead of any search engine, start using KIDDLE with a hope, for your children internet is boon.

KID'S TIME

DO WE GIVE OUR CHILD ENOUGH TIME?I saw many posts relating to mobile and television.

“my child is spending too much of time on phone”

“phone addictive” and many more like this.

Don’t you ever think why they are addictive?and Why are we not so addictive, when we are children?

Simple answer we have siblings and also we play outside games. Hope you all remember those games(stapu, badminton,pitthu phod,raja rani,och nich ka papda ,what colour you want).Today, children are either one or two and outside game ......forget it.

 All parents want to love their kids as much as they can, they want to give them everything, and their kid is like everything for them. T hats why some parents don’t want another child because they don’t want to share all their feelings to another kid (not born yet). Even with this feeling ,they don’t realize that they are ignoring their kids. They give them phone or tv,so that child gets busy in something especially in case of a child, if you have two ,may be they are busy with each other but in that case also this addictiveness is still there but percentage decreases.

It doesn’t matter how many kids you have, what I matter, why some parents are not giving their time to their kid/s. They only give them mobiles to watch you tubes or to play games or TV so that their kid/s can watch cartoons or songs. Even before sometimes I also used to do that, therefore I know there are many reasons for doing this.

• Wants some rest
• Wants to do household or office work
• Most important, child could eat something

BUT..

One day my sis watsapp me an article that one boy cut his nerves only because parents did not give him PHONE. At very same time my daughter came in my mind.”NOOOOOO”.I decided not to give her phone, although, I know at this stage it was too difficult but I would try. Then I started playing with her as much as I can or try to busy her in some activities or toys. At that time I realized if I am with her she doesn’t need anything.

When I deeply think I realised I have only one child and she has only one childhood. If I missed her childhood now, it will never return. I can’t see my  child childhood again (as I don’t know about second, whether he/she come or not) if not, then? If this time goes, I never play with her like this way. So decided, now I am her phone, I know it’s too hard for me, but at least I can try, if she was on phone 3 hours, I definitely said that it will come to 1 hour.

From 10 days I am doing this, also succeeded in it. How I come to know? Before my data consumption more than 1 GB but know 600 MB left. WOW!

I know all parents know phone is not good for a child but still they gave them .In starting it was a need for parents slowly and  slowly it becomes the need of child. So know when I have to give phone to my daughter, after 10 minutes I give call on phone and as a good child she gives phone back to me and I start playing with her or give her some drawing book.

With a hope I stopping my pen that “I AND YOU WILL GIVE TIME TO OUR CHILDREN” and always keeps in mind

“TIMES NEVER COMES BACK”

ONE OR TWO

One or two? Every couple will confuse in it whether they will have one or two children. No doubt, I am also in confusion but right now I have a beautiful and sweet daughter.Many couples are facing or will face same problem today or tomorrow. Now let’s start a debate on it.

Now a day’s price of everything is getting increasing day by day either you take vegetables or petrol. No need to ask school fees. It’s touching a sky .I don’t know in coming time where it will go, rather up or down? According to me fees don’t get down until and unless government will take some strict actions. If we talk about our daily needs, I don’t think they will get down .That’s why inflation is the main reason of having a child. People usually say”ek toh achi se pal jaye” (grow one child in a good way).Another reason, parents don’t want to share their love with another child. If someone will ask me about this; “DON’T YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF”, my only answer.  Few more reasons may be figure conscious, don’t like children, did one only because of family pressure and blah blah.

Now we talk about having two children –they both have a company of each other .In big cities, people even don’t know who your neighbours are? Parents don’t want to send their child at other’s house .Today no one believe in others. This is just because of so many criminal activities are happening around us, then, why one should believe in others? A child needs company; they can share their secrets which they can’t say to their parents. They help each other in time of needs. At one time parents are not with them; even then they have a family, their sibling/s.

When I am with my siblings, that time was my memorable time. We talked about our childhood, our family and friends .They tell us what is right or wrong. What we should in particular case or what we not. In short, they are our guide too. I know you may be thinking, today,”bhai bhai ka nahi hota” ,you are somewhat correct but you can see many example of brotherhood around you. Then why we are thinking so negative .Today also children send their parents to old age home or even throw out from their  houses, that doesn’t mean because of this you don’t want a child. In this case you are thinking positive then why in later case.

Now I think the main problem is MONEY .Who said to send your in high school, give them branded clothes? You can send him/her in not so high school, give them normal clothes. If you want, you can do anything. Where there is a will, there is a way. If you ask me of having another child my only fear GOING ALL THOSE THING AGAIN?

I only want to say think about your child future, his/her family, when you are not their. Before taking any decision think 100 times.

BREASTFEEDING (BF)

Hello

Whenever I am going though any of mommies’ page or app, I saw many mommies were asking ‘how to stop breastfeeding (BF)?’

When I was new to these pages and I saw first post of BF. My reaction BF-“BOYFRIEND”?😥 , in a fraction of second I come to know it’s a breast feeding😅. I like the short form BF. So here also I am using BF instead of breastfeeding. I generally found a post, in each page, of BF. So, I decided to write on BF. I know my post not solved the problem of all moms’ but at least of few moms’.

Generally moms have a problem of how to stop her child from taking BF.Child is used to that milk (kyu na ho ). When my daughter was born (c-section), giving BF first time was so difficult but as time passes it’s become fine. My sis-in-law suggested me start bottle also otherwise it become a problem. I heard that BF is very good for a child but she was suggesting me from her experienced .In starting I felt very bad but now when I am thinking about it ,I feel  it was  very good decision😊.

As child use of bottle from starting, so when the time comes when you want to stop BF, It’s become little bit easy for you. When I felt it’s time for my daughter to stop BF. I started giving BF and bottle both but on the alternative basis. At night when she was sleeping and hungry I prefer BF. Slowly and slowly BF was replaced by some solid food and some by bottle but at night BF.As time passes I started  giving solid food to my daughter before going to bed so that she would not wake at night .It takes few days but yes she stop waking at night. As BF taking was reducing so do milk and finally she left.

In this way BF also stop and night wakening is also stop. This was my experienced. All mom’s think differently, so do I.

FIRST DAY IN SCHOOL-2

I know it’s very late continuation. First day, she was very happy. There had party in her school. She came back at 11 pm.Two and half hour, first day in a school, not bad, in fact, very good. I was very happy😊 at that day I was satisfied that "now she easily adjusts in a school”, but I was wrong😢 .Next day she was crying that she didn’t want to go to school. At that day when I just finished my tasty breakfast, my phone rang. It was called from my DD‘s school. She was crying a lot and I brought back her at 9:30.All my happiness of adjustment was just an excitement. Thereafter whenever anyone was talking about school she started crying. Then all other decided to bring her back till 10:30 for few days. Now she used to cry when going to school but like a good child she picks her bag and sits in  car quietly but says”mumma ,don’t want to go to school”. And when she reaches school, she cry a lot and say”mumma,aap jao”😢.It seems she comes to know that now this is her daily routine.When I go to her school to bring ,I see her coming downstairs ,with her teacher, with a very cute smile😊 and says”mumma”.By seeing her like this I become so happy😘.

Today, after 20 days of starting the school, when I dropped her she easily went to her teacher but when I goodbye her, her lips started shaking .she wanted to cry but she was not👼 (my brave girl).At that time I felt so bad and proud too. How strong is my little one that she knows how to control her emotions?

Till know I learnt that for your kids future you have to become strong. In starting kids use to cry, not eat properly, and many other things, you have to strong especially when your very cute ,adorable and loving kid cries. No one can see her crying. For me this (seeing my child crying) was also tough. As I knew this thing is going to be happen and i had to prepare for it. So I didn’t get melted when she cried, I am not a woman who don’t have emotions, whenever she cries, I also cry even more than her. Anyway this para is not for me. Just I want parents when you see your child behavior got change

• Talk to her teacher about this

• Observe whether he is going to his teacher without any fear

• Ask your child about his day in the school

• Is there any name or thing he starts scaring?

• Regular in touch with her teacher

• When he comes sit 5-10 minutes with him

• Increase your child time slowly and slowly when you think “yes now he settles” then increase time 15 to 30 minutes.

These are few things which I noticed and experienced.

If you suggest some more notification I will be very obliged.

FIRST DAY IN SCHOOL

I know this post is not related to this page but yes, this post is related to moms whose child going to school first time. On Monday, my daughter is going to attend her first day in her school. So, I want to express my feelings to other moms.

FIRST DAY, whenever I think so I get goose bumps. Now her day is getting so much near, I m feeling so much nervous, excited, and sad and pity also by thinking “Oh!!!My little baby, you are too small for going to school.”😔 next thought “you are always small for me.”I know I have to do this. I never send her far away from me, she always wanted me. Wherever, whenever I went somewhere she was with me like a shadow and now I have to leave my shadow for some hours. Whenever I think so my eyes get wet 😔(I never told this to anyone).Even how she spend that time without me? I know she will cry a lot in her starting days (so am I).She is playing in front of me right now😊. She doesn’t know her life going to be change from Monday.

I prepared her bag (smiley tiffin box, Mickey Mouse red bag, diaper, hanky and a dress).I checked her wardrobe if she needs anything. All set .Now waiting for the day, don’t know what will happen? She is so small. How she manages all things? Will she eats properly? If she cries, who will going to hug her? If she asks “mumma,where are you?”Then?

Now it’s better I stop my pen here otherwise I will start crying. Mumma loves you beta😘 and will miss you too.

Hope I am looking foolish. Moms’ please share you’re experienced also.waiting.😊

Himalaya Herbals Purifying Neem Face Wash

If you asked “who are dedicated to their face wash?”You get the answer “RARELY”. From those rare people my mother in law is one. She is so much committed to her face wash that she purchased her face wash in buffer because she knows her face wash is best for her.

Yes, Himalaya purifying neem face wash. May be you were thinking of those brand which emptied your pocket .She had a problem of pimples. She tried many face wash but was of no use. Someone told her try neem face wash as she has an oily skin. She tried  many neem face wash but her last tried was Himalaya and she used to stick with it .Even I gave her many neem face wash of other brands and she  even tried also but after 2-3 washes she gave it back to me and said “for me Himalaya is perfect”.

Products claims

A soap free ,herbal formulation that gently removes impurities and prevents pimples. Neem,well-known for its antibacterial properties;kills problem –causing bacteria,and turmeric effectively controls acne and pimples.

Directions for use:

Moisten face and neck;apply a small amount of purifying neem face wash and gently work up a lather using a circular motion.wash off and pat dry use twice daily.

• For external use only

•  Ayurvedic proprietary medicine

•  Hypoallergenic

• No harmful chemicals

• Store in a cool and dry place.

Sizes and prices:

15 ml for INR15

100 ml for INR110

150ml for INR 150

200ml for  INR 170

300 ml for INR230

Pros

• Easily available
• Also come in foam
• Different types of packing
• Without any doubt it is in budget
• What it say it does i.e. it remove pimples
• Fragrance of neem
• Herbal ,so no side effects
• Expired in 2 years(as product claim)

Cons

• Dry skin become more dry
• Foam only available in 300 ml

Mother-in-law view

My purpose solve .Good for oily skin and don't get pimples anymore.

My view 

Pros are more in number than cons, so it’s worth to purchase Himalaya purifying neem face wash.  

NO TO BOTTLE

Bottle feeding has been very easy for mothers to give to her child, so was my case. After few months of her first b'day, when my daughter was big enough to leave bottle, I decided to stop giving her bottle feed but the question was how? I knew it was  very difficult task(as I heard from others) but I had to do it. As she was use to it and so it was not easy for her too. I tried many things, one of them was spoon. I gave her milk by spoon but after taking 3-4 spoons she used to start crying😔 and I had to give her a bottle. I tried this for a week but no use .I knew it was difficult but so much..I had not expected. She was my first child so I  didn’t know what to do next?

One day when I went to purchase a diaper, I saw a sipper. I bought it as if God is saying,”ja lele sipper ji le apni zindagi”( jokes apart).I started giving milk in  it but she refused. It was not her mistake as she didn’t know how to drink from it. Now what?

One day, I had an idea,“Why not try water?”, and it worked😊. After few days I started giving milk in it but only one time i.e. in the evening. Slowly, I  hid all her bottles and milk powder too, I didn’t even speak the word “ bottle” in front of her ,we would say bottle as B,O,T,T,L,E.I knew if she started again then it will become really difficult to quit bottle.

This is how I succeeded without so much difficulty(as I heard) and with a hope i will pass all such difficulty with ease(mujhe pata hai aisa hoga nahi)😈

Fruits!Fruits!Fruits!

FRUIT!!!!One of the major concerns for moms for their kids or you can say for the children up to the age 2 ( after that you can't control kids taste).Now a day’s kids don’t like fruits at all. I don’t know how they differentiate between healthy and non healthy things?😒  They only like candies, chocolates, chips.Even my 2 yrs daughter like these (we used to talk in spellings whenever we want to use these words)😎.

Till the age of 1 she loves fruits but after that her loves become likes and then hates. When she completed her 2 yrs,I supposed she was asking me “Mom, What are fruits?”

After few days I realized by not eating fruits, she was missing lots of nutrients. Its time for me to do something.So, one day I tried “banana shake” (with less milk).Guess what? She ate😃😃. Giving same fruits is also not good, mango season is going on, why not try mango shake or aam ras

.This experiment also worked but apple shake not worked(i guess she don’t like apple).

Doesn’t matter, I gave her only these two shakes for few days, after that little break. Giving same thing again and again scared me, might be she stopped eating this also.

Kid's moms you can try this never know what works, but remember

• ·   Less milk
• · Don’t keep shakes too long , prepare fresh shakes ,especially banana shake.
• ·   You can add some flavors in it to make it tasty ,I add roofzah.
• ·    Sugar can be added ,its up to baby taste.
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