KID'S TIME

DO WE GIVE OUR CHILD ENOUGH TIME?I saw many posts relating to mobile and television.

“my child is spending too much of time on phone”

“phone addictive” and many more like this.

Don’t you ever think why they are addictive?and Why are we not so addictive, when we are children?

Simple answer we have siblings and also we play outside games. Hope you all remember those games(stapu, badminton,pitthu phod,raja rani,och nich ka papda ,what colour you want).Today, children are either one or two and outside game ......forget it.

 All parents want to love their kids as much as they can, they want to give them everything, and their kid is like everything for them. T hats why some parents don’t want another child because they don’t want to share all their feelings to another kid (not born yet). Even with this feeling ,they don’t realize that they are ignoring their kids. They give them phone or tv,so that child gets busy in something especially in case of a child, if you have two ,may be they are busy with each other but in that case also this addictiveness is still there but percentage decreases.

It doesn’t matter how many kids you have, what I matter, why some parents are not giving their time to their kid/s. They only give them mobiles to watch you tubes or to play games or TV so that their kid/s can watch cartoons or songs. Even before sometimes I also used to do that, therefore I know there are many reasons for doing this.

• Wants some rest
• Wants to do household or office work
• Most important, child could eat something

BUT..

One day my sis watsapp me an article that one boy cut his nerves only because parents did not give him PHONE. At very same time my daughter came in my mind.”NOOOOOO”.I decided not to give her phone, although, I know at this stage it was too difficult but I would try. Then I started playing with her as much as I can or try to busy her in some activities or toys. At that time I realized if I am with her she doesn’t need anything.

When I deeply think I realised I have only one child and she has only one childhood. If I missed her childhood now, it will never return. I can’t see my  child childhood again (as I don’t know about second, whether he/she come or not) if not, then? If this time goes, I never play with her like this way. So decided, now I am her phone, I know it’s too hard for me, but at least I can try, if she was on phone 3 hours, I definitely said that it will come to 1 hour.

From 10 days I am doing this, also succeeded in it. How I come to know? Before my data consumption more than 1 GB but know 600 MB left. WOW!

I know all parents know phone is not good for a child but still they gave them .In starting it was a need for parents slowly and  slowly it becomes the need of child. So know when I have to give phone to my daughter, after 10 minutes I give call on phone and as a good child she gives phone back to me and I start playing with her or give her some drawing book.

With a hope I stopping my pen that “I AND YOU WILL GIVE TIME TO OUR CHILDREN” and always keeps in mind

“TIMES NEVER COMES BACK”

ONE OR TWO

One or two? Every couple will confuse in it whether they will have one or two children. No doubt, I am also in confusion but right now I have a beautiful and sweet daughter.Many couples are facing or will face same problem today or tomorrow. Now let’s start a debate on it.

Now a day’s price of everything is getting increasing day by day either you take vegetables or petrol. No need to ask school fees. It’s touching a sky .I don’t know in coming time where it will go, rather up or down? According to me fees don’t get down until and unless government will take some strict actions. If we talk about our daily needs, I don’t think they will get down .That’s why inflation is the main reason of having a child. People usually say”ek toh achi se pal jaye” (grow one child in a good way).Another reason, parents don’t want to share their love with another child. If someone will ask me about this; “DON’T YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF”, my only answer.  Few more reasons may be figure conscious, don’t like children, did one only because of family pressure and blah blah.

Now we talk about having two children –they both have a company of each other .In big cities, people even don’t know who your neighbours are? Parents don’t want to send their child at other’s house .Today no one believe in others. This is just because of so many criminal activities are happening around us, then, why one should believe in others? A child needs company; they can share their secrets which they can’t say to their parents. They help each other in time of needs. At one time parents are not with them; even then they have a family, their sibling/s.

When I am with my siblings, that time was my memorable time. We talked about our childhood, our family and friends .They tell us what is right or wrong. What we should in particular case or what we not. In short, they are our guide too. I know you may be thinking, today,”bhai bhai ka nahi hota” ,you are somewhat correct but you can see many example of brotherhood around you. Then why we are thinking so negative .Today also children send their parents to old age home or even throw out from their  houses, that doesn’t mean because of this you don’t want a child. In this case you are thinking positive then why in later case.

Now I think the main problem is MONEY .Who said to send your in high school, give them branded clothes? You can send him/her in not so high school, give them normal clothes. If you want, you can do anything. Where there is a will, there is a way. If you ask me of having another child my only fear GOING ALL THOSE THING AGAIN?

I only want to say think about your child future, his/her family, when you are not their. Before taking any decision think 100 times.