KID'S TIME

DO WE GIVE OUR CHILD ENOUGH TIME?I saw many posts relating to mobile and television.

“my child is spending too much of time on phone”

“phone addictive” and many more like this.

Don’t you ever think why they are addictive?and Why are we not so addictive, when we are children?

Simple answer we have siblings and also we play outside games. Hope you all remember those games(stapu, badminton,pitthu phod,raja rani,och nich ka papda ,what colour you want).Today, children are either one or two and outside game ......forget it.

 All parents want to love their kids as much as they can, they want to give them everything, and their kid is like everything for them. T hats why some parents don’t want another child because they don’t want to share all their feelings to another kid (not born yet). Even with this feeling ,they don’t realize that they are ignoring their kids. They give them phone or tv,so that child gets busy in something especially in case of a child, if you have two ,may be they are busy with each other but in that case also this addictiveness is still there but percentage decreases.

It doesn’t matter how many kids you have, what I matter, why some parents are not giving their time to their kid/s. They only give them mobiles to watch you tubes or to play games or TV so that their kid/s can watch cartoons or songs. Even before sometimes I also used to do that, therefore I know there are many reasons for doing this.

• Wants some rest
• Wants to do household or office work
• Most important, child could eat something

BUT..

One day my sis watsapp me an article that one boy cut his nerves only because parents did not give him PHONE. At very same time my daughter came in my mind.”NOOOOOO”.I decided not to give her phone, although, I know at this stage it was too difficult but I would try. Then I started playing with her as much as I can or try to busy her in some activities or toys. At that time I realized if I am with her she doesn’t need anything.

When I deeply think I realised I have only one child and she has only one childhood. If I missed her childhood now, it will never return. I can’t see my  child childhood again (as I don’t know about second, whether he/she come or not) if not, then? If this time goes, I never play with her like this way. So decided, now I am her phone, I know it’s too hard for me, but at least I can try, if she was on phone 3 hours, I definitely said that it will come to 1 hour.

From 10 days I am doing this, also succeeded in it. How I come to know? Before my data consumption more than 1 GB but know 600 MB left. WOW!

I know all parents know phone is not good for a child but still they gave them .In starting it was a need for parents slowly and  slowly it becomes the need of child. So know when I have to give phone to my daughter, after 10 minutes I give call on phone and as a good child she gives phone back to me and I start playing with her or give her some drawing book.

With a hope I stopping my pen that “I AND YOU WILL GIVE TIME TO OUR CHILDREN” and always keeps in mind

“TIMES NEVER COMES BACK”

ONE OR TWO

One or two? Every couple will confuse in it whether they will have one or two children. No doubt, I am also in confusion but right now I have a beautiful and sweet daughter.Many couples are facing or will face same problem today or tomorrow. Now let’s start a debate on it.

Now a day’s price of everything is getting increasing day by day either you take vegetables or petrol. No need to ask school fees. It’s touching a sky .I don’t know in coming time where it will go, rather up or down? According to me fees don’t get down until and unless government will take some strict actions. If we talk about our daily needs, I don’t think they will get down .That’s why inflation is the main reason of having a child. People usually say”ek toh achi se pal jaye” (grow one child in a good way).Another reason, parents don’t want to share their love with another child. If someone will ask me about this; “DON’T YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF”, my only answer.  Few more reasons may be figure conscious, don’t like children, did one only because of family pressure and blah blah.

Now we talk about having two children –they both have a company of each other .In big cities, people even don’t know who your neighbours are? Parents don’t want to send their child at other’s house .Today no one believe in others. This is just because of so many criminal activities are happening around us, then, why one should believe in others? A child needs company; they can share their secrets which they can’t say to their parents. They help each other in time of needs. At one time parents are not with them; even then they have a family, their sibling/s.

When I am with my siblings, that time was my memorable time. We talked about our childhood, our family and friends .They tell us what is right or wrong. What we should in particular case or what we not. In short, they are our guide too. I know you may be thinking, today,”bhai bhai ka nahi hota” ,you are somewhat correct but you can see many example of brotherhood around you. Then why we are thinking so negative .Today also children send their parents to old age home or even throw out from their  houses, that doesn’t mean because of this you don’t want a child. In this case you are thinking positive then why in later case.

Now I think the main problem is MONEY .Who said to send your in high school, give them branded clothes? You can send him/her in not so high school, give them normal clothes. If you want, you can do anything. Where there is a will, there is a way. If you ask me of having another child my only fear GOING ALL THOSE THING AGAIN?

I only want to say think about your child future, his/her family, when you are not their. Before taking any decision think 100 times.

BREASTFEEDING (BF)

Hello

Whenever I am going though any of mommies’ page or app, I saw many mommies were asking ‘how to stop breastfeeding (BF)?’

When I was new to these pages and I saw first post of BF. My reaction BF-“BOYFRIEND”?😥 , in a fraction of second I come to know it’s a breast feeding😅. I like the short form BF. So here also I am using BF instead of breastfeeding. I generally found a post, in each page, of BF. So, I decided to write on BF. I know my post not solved the problem of all moms’ but at least of few moms’.

Generally moms have a problem of how to stop her child from taking BF.Child is used to that milk (kyu na ho ). When my daughter was born (c-section), giving BF first time was so difficult but as time passes it’s become fine. My sis-in-law suggested me start bottle also otherwise it become a problem. I heard that BF is very good for a child but she was suggesting me from her experienced .In starting I felt very bad but now when I am thinking about it ,I feel  it was  very good decision😊.

As child use of bottle from starting, so when the time comes when you want to stop BF, It’s become little bit easy for you. When I felt it’s time for my daughter to stop BF. I started giving BF and bottle both but on the alternative basis. At night when she was sleeping and hungry I prefer BF. Slowly and slowly BF was replaced by some solid food and some by bottle but at night BF.As time passes I started  giving solid food to my daughter before going to bed so that she would not wake at night .It takes few days but yes she stop waking at night. As BF taking was reducing so do milk and finally she left.

In this way BF also stop and night wakening is also stop. This was my experienced. All mom’s think differently, so do I.

FIRST DAY IN SCHOOL-2

I know it’s very late continuation. First day, she was very happy. There had party in her school. She came back at 11 pm.Two and half hour, first day in a school, not bad, in fact, very good. I was very happy😊 at that day I was satisfied that "now she easily adjusts in a school”, but I was wrong😢 .Next day she was crying that she didn’t want to go to school. At that day when I just finished my tasty breakfast, my phone rang. It was called from my DD‘s school. She was crying a lot and I brought back her at 9:30.All my happiness of adjustment was just an excitement. Thereafter whenever anyone was talking about school she started crying. Then all other decided to bring her back till 10:30 for few days. Now she used to cry when going to school but like a good child she picks her bag and sits in  car quietly but says”mumma ,don’t want to go to school”. And when she reaches school, she cry a lot and say”mumma,aap jao”😢.It seems she comes to know that now this is her daily routine.When I go to her school to bring ,I see her coming downstairs ,with her teacher, with a very cute smile😊 and says”mumma”.By seeing her like this I become so happy😘.

Today, after 20 days of starting the school, when I dropped her she easily went to her teacher but when I goodbye her, her lips started shaking .she wanted to cry but she was not👼 (my brave girl).At that time I felt so bad and proud too. How strong is my little one that she knows how to control her emotions?

Till know I learnt that for your kids future you have to become strong. In starting kids use to cry, not eat properly, and many other things, you have to strong especially when your very cute ,adorable and loving kid cries. No one can see her crying. For me this (seeing my child crying) was also tough. As I knew this thing is going to be happen and i had to prepare for it. So I didn’t get melted when she cried, I am not a woman who don’t have emotions, whenever she cries, I also cry even more than her. Anyway this para is not for me. Just I want parents when you see your child behavior got change

• Talk to her teacher about this

• Observe whether he is going to his teacher without any fear

• Ask your child about his day in the school

• Is there any name or thing he starts scaring?

• Regular in touch with her teacher

• When he comes sit 5-10 minutes with him

• Increase your child time slowly and slowly when you think “yes now he settles” then increase time 15 to 30 minutes.

These are few things which I noticed and experienced.

If you suggest some more notification I will be very obliged.

FIRST DAY IN SCHOOL

I know this post is not related to this page but yes, this post is related to moms whose child going to school first time. On Monday, my daughter is going to attend her first day in her school. So, I want to express my feelings to other moms.

FIRST DAY, whenever I think so I get goose bumps. Now her day is getting so much near, I m feeling so much nervous, excited, and sad and pity also by thinking “Oh!!!My little baby, you are too small for going to school.”😔 next thought “you are always small for me.”I know I have to do this. I never send her far away from me, she always wanted me. Wherever, whenever I went somewhere she was with me like a shadow and now I have to leave my shadow for some hours. Whenever I think so my eyes get wet 😔(I never told this to anyone).Even how she spend that time without me? I know she will cry a lot in her starting days (so am I).She is playing in front of me right now😊. She doesn’t know her life going to be change from Monday.

I prepared her bag (smiley tiffin box, Mickey Mouse red bag, diaper, hanky and a dress).I checked her wardrobe if she needs anything. All set .Now waiting for the day, don’t know what will happen? She is so small. How she manages all things? Will she eats properly? If she cries, who will going to hug her? If she asks “mumma,where are you?”Then?

Now it’s better I stop my pen here otherwise I will start crying. Mumma loves you beta😘 and will miss you too.

Hope I am looking foolish. Moms’ please share you’re experienced also.waiting.😊

Himalaya Herbals Purifying Neem Face Wash

If you asked “who are dedicated to their face wash?”You get the answer “RARELY”. From those rare people my mother in law is one. She is so much committed to her face wash that she purchased her face wash in buffer because she knows her face wash is best for her.

Yes, Himalaya purifying neem face wash. May be you were thinking of those brand which emptied your pocket .She had a problem of pimples. She tried many face wash but was of no use. Someone told her try neem face wash as she has an oily skin. She tried  many neem face wash but her last tried was Himalaya and she used to stick with it .Even I gave her many neem face wash of other brands and she  even tried also but after 2-3 washes she gave it back to me and said “for me Himalaya is perfect”.

Products claims

A soap free ,herbal formulation that gently removes impurities and prevents pimples. Neem,well-known for its antibacterial properties;kills problem –causing bacteria,and turmeric effectively controls acne and pimples.

Directions for use:

Moisten face and neck;apply a small amount of purifying neem face wash and gently work up a lather using a circular motion.wash off and pat dry use twice daily.

• For external use only

•  Ayurvedic proprietary medicine

•  Hypoallergenic

• No harmful chemicals

• Store in a cool and dry place.

Sizes and prices:

15 ml for INR15

100 ml for INR110

150ml for INR 150

200ml for  INR 170

300 ml for INR230

Pros

• Easily available
• Also come in foam
• Different types of packing
• Without any doubt it is in budget
• What it say it does i.e. it remove pimples
• Fragrance of neem
• Herbal ,so no side effects
• Expired in 2 years(as product claim)

Cons

• Dry skin become more dry
• Foam only available in 300 ml

Mother-in-law view

My purpose solve .Good for oily skin and don't get pimples anymore.

My view 

Pros are more in number than cons, so it’s worth to purchase Himalaya purifying neem face wash.  

NO TO BOTTLE

Bottle feeding has been very easy for mothers to give to her child, so was my case. After few months of her first b'day, when my daughter was big enough to leave bottle, I decided to stop giving her bottle feed but the question was how? I knew it was  very difficult task(as I heard from others) but I had to do it. As she was use to it and so it was not easy for her too. I tried many things, one of them was spoon. I gave her milk by spoon but after taking 3-4 spoons she used to start crying😔 and I had to give her a bottle. I tried this for a week but no use .I knew it was difficult but so much..I had not expected. She was my first child so I  didn’t know what to do next?

One day when I went to purchase a diaper, I saw a sipper. I bought it as if God is saying,”ja lele sipper ji le apni zindagi”( jokes apart).I started giving milk in  it but she refused. It was not her mistake as she didn’t know how to drink from it. Now what?

One day, I had an idea,“Why not try water?”, and it worked😊. After few days I started giving milk in it but only one time i.e. in the evening. Slowly, I  hid all her bottles and milk powder too, I didn’t even speak the word “ bottle” in front of her ,we would say bottle as B,O,T,T,L,E.I knew if she started again then it will become really difficult to quit bottle.

This is how I succeeded without so much difficulty(as I heard) and with a hope i will pass all such difficulty with ease(mujhe pata hai aisa hoga nahi)😈

Fruits!Fruits!Fruits!

FRUIT!!!!One of the major concerns for moms for their kids or you can say for the children up to the age 2 ( after that you can't control kids taste).Now a day’s kids don’t like fruits at all. I don’t know how they differentiate between healthy and non healthy things?😒  They only like candies, chocolates, chips.Even my 2 yrs daughter like these (we used to talk in spellings whenever we want to use these words)😎.

Till the age of 1 she loves fruits but after that her loves become likes and then hates. When she completed her 2 yrs,I supposed she was asking me “Mom, What are fruits?”

After few days I realized by not eating fruits, she was missing lots of nutrients. Its time for me to do something.So, one day I tried “banana shake” (with less milk).Guess what? She ate😃😃. Giving same fruits is also not good, mango season is going on, why not try mango shake or aam ras

.This experiment also worked but apple shake not worked(i guess she don’t like apple).

Doesn’t matter, I gave her only these two shakes for few days, after that little break. Giving same thing again and again scared me, might be she stopped eating this also.

Kid's moms you can try this never know what works, but remember

• ·   Less milk
• · Don’t keep shakes too long , prepare fresh shakes ,especially banana shake.
• ·   You can add some flavors in it to make it tasty ,I add roofzah.
• ·    Sugar can be added ,its up to baby taste.
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