What you are is just because of you!!!

 

What you are is just because of you!!!

When I was small, in English, we had a story in which a person was standing in between two roads from which he had to choose one road .He didn’t know where the other side ends. It’s totally his decision what comes in his way.

Similarly our lives is like that person, in which we have many roads but we have to choose only one road. We deeply think about it, maybe we discuss with our near and dearer, but the decision is ours. I saw many people who blamed other person for their situation. Yes in some cases things are not in your hand like your promotion. In that case you also have other option like to change the job or wait in that organization. Things totally in your hand.

Sometimes your decision comes in your favor but sometimes not. If it is in your favor, at that time you are happy for your decision but if it goes against you, you blamed others. Why so?

In my life too I took many decisions, yes I discussed with others too because I think maybe I can’t think other perspective of the situation, experienced person help me in this. I also keep in my mind, my priority. What I am doing or whatever my work is, it’s totally upon me either it is household or my work station.

So whatever u are doing or want to do , you are doing it for yourself, so why to make other involve in this or depend upon other, it only makes chaos.

I don’t want to depend upon others even on my spouse. He has his own things to do and interfering in other work makes chaos only. And now where I am standing it’s just because of my decisions only and I am very happy with it.

Just few things you have to keep in mind

Understand what you want

Understand your priority

Your decision will not affect others

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo

 Nam Myoho Renge kyu..Nam Myoho Renge kyu..Nam Myoho Renge kyu.Life is full of hurdles and we get tired or frustated from this hurdles ,so was I.My sister told me about this.So,I tried my hand in this, for me Doing something is better than nothing.I started this when my husband want a particular job eagerly.I started it on a continous basis and guess what he got that job.This may be coincident but it gave me a reason to continue it but like any other person ,my wish completed so my chant also completed.

Then one day I realized I used to scold my small daughter without any reason,everytime used to complain my husband.I know I was wrong but how I get out of this.Again I started it and slowly and slowly ,my problem solved, my life again on track.

Many people heard about it but they don't know what exactly it is.I am writing this to tell you what it is with simple and easy language.

It is about happiness and positivity in life.It not stop problems in your life,(problems are part of life) it only brings less suffering.Like instead of 4 days fever you will get 2 days fever.

It is a practice which teaches you how to behave or react on a particular situation.It tells you a way to overcome that situation.It brings positivity in your attitude .You can bring changes in you but change another person next to impossible but by seeing your positive attitude another person can be change.

It teaches you how to make zig zag way a smooth way.

So I  chant it  for me ,my family , my friends and  now I am chanting for my world from covid.You can also try it, for any query do comment below.I try my best to solve your queries and chant for you also.

Busy Time

It’s been a long time to write something. It’s not because I don’t have any topic to write, infect, I got many topics, the only problem is time. Life is full on busy. Whenever I get the time and want to write something, become lazy and do rest.

But today I switched off my TV, open my lappy and start writing. (Thinking about the topic).Let’s start with a time. In today era, everyone is busy, except kids (nursery kids).So am I. No one wants to sit ideal at home. I know to do home task properly, is one of the toughest job. So for me but I had a dream to have my own business.Yes, this is the only reason I stop writing for a while.

In a mean time I started my business, I don’t know in future where it(business) goes, yet I had started. Atleast in future I will not regret about, not did anything in life. I don’t want to use ‘may be, if ‘words in my future for regretting something from my life.

In an age of 30’s you have full potential, lot of energy and most important many innovative ideas.So, this a time we can start new things. We can do lots of hard work and stand our new business. I know one thing “IF YOU DO HARD WORK TODAY, ONLY THEN, YOU SIT PEACEFULLY IN FUTURE .IF YOU SIT PEACEFULLY TODAY, THEN YOU WILL HAVE TO HARDWORK.”If you deeply think about it, first one is good option.

“I DONT HAVE TIME”, heard from many people, even I am also use to say these words. Because of these words I can’t get time to write blog, that’s why writing this blog in midnight. My sister use to say”time nikalne se nikalta hai”.If you want to do work then by hook or crook you will do that work. If the Sword of Damocles hangs over someone’s head only then, they have time to do work.

I know it’s very difficult but try to do work systematically, so that, you don’t need to say

TIME IS THE ONLY PROBLEM

POTTY TRAINING

I saw many queries related to potty training. Even I want to know it.Yes,my daughter ,3 years old, does not tell me about potty.Still,I am writing this post to tell others about what I did wrong .

The right age to train your baby is 2 years .You must be thinking 2 years? Baby is too small to train. Yes, he is too small but he is not too small to understand it.If this stage pass he become stubborn and don’t want to tell.

I used to tell my daughter with a smile that we do potty in bathroom, I did this for 1 year,  I never scolded her as I was thinking that she was too small. BUT a day came when I realized how important, at least in this stage, for a mother that baby must tell about potty.

I and my husband were in airport and she did potty. I didn’t said any word to her and took her to ladies toilet and where she refused to sit on toilet seat .She literally crying and I shouted her like a mad person but of  no use .I couldn’t call my husband too(ladies toilet).NOW WHAT? Finally, I got my angel, washroom attendant she helped me. At that time I made  promise in her holidays I taught her about potty.Everytime she did potty in panty I scolded her ,she used to scare of me  and said”mumma  aap nahi samjhaoge na”,”nahi,mumma ko nahi batana” etc.In the last I gave up because I don’t want my baby will start scaring of me.

From that day onwards I sometimes scold her,sometimes explain her and sometimes don’t say anything.Waiting for the day when she will tell me” mumma potty ayi hai”.

From my experienced i come to know that yes you have to be strict  about potty. If you think that it not work try after some days. 

YOU HAVE TO BE STRICT AND HAVE TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS.

After scolding him/her, don’t try to console him/her. You hug him/her after 1 hour or when you think its a right time

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT BABY DO LIKE MY PAGE AND FOLLOW MY BLOG.

Speech 3

In a hope all you stammered doing your exercise well .now its time for next chapter.I make it short and simple .if you noticed your speech you stuck on few alphabets like ‘k’,’s’ etc.

Now what you have to do is counting. Speak 4 digits at a time or you can say in one breath like 1,2,3,4 then 2 seconds break then 5,6,7,8 like this, do it till 100.Not to forget to write the time and your own remarks in a therapy note book.

Like this you can also read short stories, first in hindi then after 1 week you can start English stories too. After 4-5 words make a slash, this recall you that you don’t have to read more than this in a breath.

Feel free to ask me anything about it. Next chapter will come soon

Not to forget to practice regularly.

Remember it takes time ,more than 6 months. It’s not easy to change your habits.

SPEECH 2

Declaration:-I AM NOT A DOCTOR

It is just a kind of speech therapy. Before starting anything keep following points in mind

·         Make a notebook to note your exercise time

·         Note your week points

·         Do exercise daily (at least for an hour)

Breathing affects your speech a lot. So first of all prepare a bed and lie on it. Slowly inhale and exhale. When you exhale start saying ‘aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa’like this, say all vowels sound. Don’t give any pressure while saying vowels sound. When you are exhaling only then you say vowel sound.

This is the first exercise, start doing it .Soon you get next exercise.

Remember slow and steady win the race

Don’t give up

Exercises are easy but effective, so do it in a proper way.

For further guidance do write to me.

ALL THE BEST!!!!!!

Speech 1

People judge you, first by your looks and then by your speech. Looks you can change easily but changing the way you talk needs so much practice. I am not talking about language. I am talking about the way you speak your language.

Speaking confidently is the only key by which a salesman, sale his product.

Some people speak too fast or too slow. Too fast people hardly understandable and too slow, people don’t want to listen them. And some people stammer. People also don’t want to listen them, if they listen, they stop stammerer in between the line or just start laughing, which decrease their moral to speak.

These are actually habits, which are going to increase as time passes because:-

·         Person is too small to know the outcomes of these problems

·         No one is there to guide them

·         People laugh which decrease their confidence

I AM NOT A DOCTOR. Here I want to tell my experience, yes my, I was the sufferer from one of these problem but with proper guidance I overcome from it.

So I want to share my experience and exercises through which I overcome it but in my next blog. May be at least one person get overcome from it.

Stay tune for next blog and do share your nearer and dearer experiences.